I Suck at Meditation, A Lesson for Life

I suck at meditation – lessons for life – Tivi jones

I reeeeeally want to be good at meditation.

Seriously, like zen-out-super-chill-floating-on-a-cloud good at meditation.

The full story is that, I have a good intuition (although I don’t always listen to it), but I know it could be better if I took more time to quiet my mind.

I’ve had friends, mentors and even psychics tell me: You need to meditate…

…and then each touts the benefits I could personally experience if I made meditation a practice.

And then I try meditation, which results in me either:

  • making to-do list in my head
  • feeling anxiety about not working
  • having a wandering mind and then beating myself up about having a wandering mind
  • falling asleep

What happens then is that I’ll stop even trying to meditate, because I “suck at it.”

I haven’t figured out if I’m quitting because I have an unrealistic expectation of what beginners meditation would be or if I’m quitting because I don’t like to fail and I fail at meditation every time.

Perhaps a little bit of both.

But this morning, something strange happened. I attempted meditation and it was an extremely successful experience.

But I was successful because I went in thinking: I have no expectations for this other than to sit here for 10 minutes and if I make to-do lists or have a wandering mind, that’s ok because it’s not a failure unless I don’t learn from it.

It’s so funny how this experience has taught be so much about my life in general. Specifically:

  1. Fear of failure shouldn’t keep you from trying
  2. You either “succeed” or you learn, but in either case you win
  3. Focus on the joy of the journey not the expectation of the finish line, or else you might get frustrated and quit

Here’s to failing fast and consistent tries.



You are what you eat

You are what you eat - Study more of your craft

If you’re an author, how much do you read about craft or attend workshops or develop your brand?

If you’re a publisher, how much do you read about your industry?

Do you network with your peers? Seek advice?

I published a post several years ago called “why creative brands should sleep with the ‘enemy'” (I may publish it again, if I can find the original, but my site was hacked again this year, so I lost all my published posts) and for some reason that idea was on my mind this morning.

Specifically the idea of: “You are what you eat.”

Maybe I was being hard on myself because I HAVEN’T been devouring much of my own industry lately and I really need to.

My personal life and work life have been going through a lot of changes lately and I really need a vacation – but that’s no excuse for NOT keeping up with my industry.

And no matter what you are going through, you can’t afford to NOT devour more about your industry and your craft.

You WILL get left behind if you don’t.

Find ways to make this a part of your everyday routine.

This is why I encourage people to do what they love, because then keeping up with your industry won’t feel like work.

Subscribe to newsletters or blog feeds for people or companies your industry.

Attend workshops.

Do research.

Download podcasts.

Actively work at developing a new skill.

Connect with your peers.


Do it.

It’ll make you stronger in your niche.


[photo “Big ass burger between 2 grill cheese sandwiches” by chunkysalsa]

How Complaints Can Lead to Success in Life & Business

Every complaint you have is a request that you haven't made. Tivi Jones

I was never a fan of complaining.

I always thought that instead of B&Ming, we could be working to improve the situation we are complaining about.

My view on complaining could be captured perfectly by the following quote. I can’t remember who said it (possibly Lara Casey), so I’m paraphrasing:

“Every complaint you have is a request that you haven’t made.”

But I now see the value in a little bit of healthy complaining.

A nice, healthy B&Ming session can help you:Continue reading →

How to be happier at work

How To Be Happier At Work

Hi Spirit Junkies!

We spend most of our life at work. Hours and hours go by in an office as we deal with difficult coworkers, demanding clients and annoying (or possibly toxic) office politics. Even if you love your job, work can feel overwhelming at times. I want to address this issue head-on. If we’re going to put so much time into something, it should be fun! When we’re happier at work, we become happier in every area of life.

If you’re struggling with some aspect of your job or simply seeking a fresh perspective on work, then check out this video! In this new Dear Gabby video, I share 3 foolproof tips for how to be happier at work.

Read the original: how to be happier at work by the fabulous Gabby Bernstein