Today’s blog post is a guest post from award-winning author Katharine Ashe.
In this Q&A, she shares how she conquers fear, taps into creativity and loves deeply!
How do you conquer fear?
By meeting it head on.
I have a very hard time with indecision and inaction. When I see a problem I want to solve it—NOW. I consider fear a problem. It paralyzes me, and that’s just not okay.
This may sound clichéd, but life is way too short to waste any moment of it in paralysis. (Auntie Mame said it best: “Life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death!”) So I pretty much have to tackle my fears as soon as they arise. Sometimes the tackling works and has long lasting effects.
Sometimes the fear resurfaces and I have to try something new. But I won’t allow fear to sit in my gut and eat away at me. And I try not to let it make me angry, resentful or cynical. Admittedly, that last one’s tough. I’m in two very competitive industries in which it’s awfully challenging to succeed. People left and right are happy to tell you all the reasons you should be afraid, angry, or resentful, and it’s easy to get cynical. Fortunately I write books about hope and resourcefulness and the strength of love, so I have daily reminders of the good to help me avoid the bad.
What’s your no-fail recipe for tapping into creativity?
I run. For me a happy body creates space for a relaxed, active imagination.
I read too, mostly history but also beautifully written fiction. The more beautiful the writing and the more powerful the story and the more hope I find at the end of the tale, the more it inspires my creativity. The easiest time I ever have writing is right after I’ve read a gorgeously written book.
Who inspires you to do what you do? Who encourages you?
My wonderful mom, sisters and fans. They read my books and tell me they love them. That’s all I wish — that the stories that give me so much pleasure to write touch others and make them happy.
When it comes to encouragement, my husband is behind my writing career entirely, and I’m very grateful for that.
I also find inspiration in the beautiful writing of other novelists.
What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
“Just love him.”
This came from my brother years ago. I had adopted a puppy — an energetic bundle of Great Dane and Black Lab enthusiasm for life, and especially for any creature smaller than him. After only a few weeks of new motherhood I was thoroughly exhausted.
I spent hours and hours every week in and out of obedience class training him and reading books on dog behavior, but none of it seemed to work. In tears one day I called my brother, an animal specialist, and begged his advice. He said, “Just love him.” That piece of advice changed my life far beyond the training of my dog.
I started looking at every relationship as an opportunity to love, simply, no string attached, no expectations involved. I don’t think it’s any coincidence that shortly after that I wrote my first romance novel. I write historical romances featuring lords and ladies and pirates and intrigue and adventure and a lot of really, really fantastic sex. Fantasies, to some extent. ☺
But at the core of each book is an honest, powerful love between two people, a love strong enough to overcome any obstacle.
Clap me in irons for spouting clichés today, but for all the complications, tragedies and challenges of this mortal coil, the Beatles really had something. All you need is love.
Any current or upcoming projects or releases people should know about?
How a Lady Weds a Rogue, my latest historical romance from Avon Books, features a country miss and a hardened spy who set out on a quest only to find themselves caught up in the most perilous adventure of their lives.
Miss Diantha Lucas wants to find the mother that abandoned her as a girl, and dashing, dangerously handsome Wyn Yale seems the perfect Knight In Shining Armor to help her. But Wyn knows he’s no hero, and he’s determined to return Diantha to her family and get on with his own mission: murdering an evil duke. The trouble is he can’t seem to keep his hands off of Diantha. And where his hands go, his heart seems to want to follow . . .
How a Lady Weds a Rogue will be on bookstore shelves and e-readers on September 25.
Thanks so much for stopping by, Katharine!