“You laugh too loud.”
So you bring your hand to your mouth to muffle the sound.
“Your nose is too big.”
So you learn makeup tricks, daydream about someone else’s face, and dodge profile pictures.
“Your voice is too high.”
So you stop speaking up.“Believing in that is stupid.”
So you put away your magic wand and doubt your intuition.
“Your chest is too small.”
So you wear padding or cover yourself in layers.
“You’re a know it all.”
So you bite your tongue and refrain from raising your hand.
For many years you’ve been hiding. Some part of yourself has been labeled or made fun of or criticized. And you responded by covering up, tucking away, and hiding parts of who you are.
It makes sense. We all want to be normal, liked, and accepted. And when we are young, we want this more than we want to be separate. We are socially taught to blend in, fit in, be cool, be like everyone else. And over time, like the yellow words on an old recipe card, the essence of you begins to fade. We believe the LIE that we are TOO much of something and we begin to hide our uniqueness.
Your divine light gets covered by a residue of shame that whispers… “If you really knew who I was, what I thought, and what I do, you wouldn’t really like me. You would know I’m not good enough.”
And to escape the rejection, we hide ourselves in plain sight. We play small. We hide behind other people. We try to be like “someone” who has what we want. (If only I could write like her… then I would…) We think we aren’t ready, aren’t enough, or aren’t deserving of real success, love, recognition. We want to make a difference, but we are scared of stepping into it. Like Rapunzel, our deepest desire is that someone will find us, save us from our banished tower, and accept us (and our freakishly long hair). But we can’t wait for someone else (no matter how charming they are).
The acceptance we seek begins in our own heart.
Stop hiding. Reveal who you are. All that muffled, dodging, silencing, closeted beauty is costing you so much precious energy, time, and authentic living. It’s not true what you’ve been told. You’re beautiful.
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