Break out of average by Tivi Jones

An average life.

I want no part of that.

I opened my dictionary recently and looked up the word average.

constituting the result obtained by adding together several quantities and then dividing this total by the number of quantities:

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want any division in my life.

Don’t take anything away from my shine, my drive, my happiness, my grace.

“The status quo is the saddest quo” those words came to me in the car a few weeks ago when as I was unexpectedly feeling like a cog in someone else’s machine.

Is your life becoming status quo?

How can we challenge ourselves in life and in business to break past average, to get out of the status quo, to upgrade our cog-like existence so that we are the ones operating the machines?

Here are a few lessons I’ve learned lately:

1. Stop waiting for permission.

No one is waiting patiently to give you keys to the kingdom.

No one.

There’s no luck without the work necessary to actually get to the “luck table.”

Luck = 1 part preparation + 1 part opportunity.

Stop waiting for permission to live your life, and just live it.

I’ve known people who have stuck with dead-end, thankless, stress-you-out-to-the-point-of-having-health-problems jobs, marriages and situations just waiting for someone else to make a change on their behalf (either in the form of a layoff or a breakup) so they can have the opportunity to finally do what they want to do or have what they want to have.

I’ve been there too in one way or another, so forgive me if I think that existence is a load of crap. Actually, don’t forgive me and just stop waiting for permission to live a happy life.

2. Don’t be afraid to find a new circle.

True story. Some people never get out of the middle, the status quo or average because “it’s lonely at the top” or “my friends and family will think I’ve changed.”

So what?

When you get out of average-land, yep, there are less people in rockstar-town and people will think you’ve changed. Because you have.

Either encourage your friends and family to up their game too and come with you or find a new circle.

As if having a million average friends who don’t want the absolute best for you isn’t lonely. Puh-lease.

3. Learn to tell a new story.

If you’ve always been a single mom, who worked 3 jobs and struggled to pay the bills and put your kids through school on your own, who are you once you don’t have things to complain about?

Some of us learn our identities in our struggles, and at the thought of not having those struggles any more, there’s a subconscious fear of not knowing what is next, not knowing how to act, not knowing to whom to relate (see #2).

One thing Iyanla Vazant taught me is to NOT get addicted to our stories.

Our stories don’t define our present nor our future. Just the past. So leave them there.

Learn to tell a new story and live that story.

What obstacles keep you from living the life or having the business you want?

How do you plan to break past the status quo?